'An 8 year lie!': Wife Finds Out That Her Husband's Been Secretly Sterilized For Years Even Though They Were Planning To Have Kids

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elina lee
Jan 20, 2023 12:00 PM EST

If there's one thing we will never be able to tolerate - it's cheaters and liars. Alright, that's two but they go hand in hand with one another. We'll never be able to wrap our minds around the concept of deceiving your significant other, the person you plan to build your entire future with. But men will be men and that means that they will lie and they will cheat. But the same goes for us. Women will be women and they will always find out all your deepest secrets because we are the ultimate detectives. 

With that being said, we present to you a Reddit story of yet another man being deceitful and conniving. We swear when we read this story our mouths quite literally dropped to the ground. We just don't get how he could ever think he could get away with something so big as this. Just doesn't make any sense whatsoever. 

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    Human body - Posted by u/PixelPioneer_ 5 days ago I just found out that my husband of 8 years has been secretly sterilized
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    Font - I had no idea this was even something he was considering, let alone went through with. I found out completely by accident when I was going through some of his medical records for a completely unrelated matter. I was shocked, hurt, and completely blindsided. I feel completely betrayed.
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    Font - I've always wanted children and it was something we talked about and planned for in the future. Now I feel like that future has been taken away from me without any say in the matter. He says he did it for personal reasons and that it doesn't change how he feels about me or our relationship, but I can't shake this feeling of betrayal.
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    Font - I don't know what to do or how to feel about this. I love my husband, but I also feel like my future has been taken away from me without any consent. I need some outside perspective on this. Am I the asshole for feeling hurt and betrayed or is my spouse in the wrong for not discussing this with me first?
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    Font - I'm open to any and all suggestions or alternative perspectives. Had to make a throwaway acc for this. EDIT:- He had done it 4 years ago and hadn't told me. That's half of our marriage life. I confronted him and he said he didn't want kids before that as well and that he lied to me. That's 4 years of taking pills for absolutely nothing!
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    'He had done it 4 years ago and hadn't told me. That's half of our marriage life. I confronted him and he said he didn't want kids before that as well and that he lied to me. That's 4 years of taking pills for absolutely nothing!' 

    That's absolutely insane!!!!! First of all, the lying for years, and second, the birth control. Ouf, girl, we're so sorry. 

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    Font - RunninOnMT 5 days ago The sterilization isn't the issue. It's the 8 year lie about your future that's the issue. He has every right to do what he wants with his body. He does not have the right to sell you on a future he knows will never happen. That's
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    Font - La_danse_banana_slug · 5 days ago Yeah. What exactly was his plan here? To just sit by and watch her decade-long heart break as she ages out of being able to have children, and he's... fine with that? What if OP had wanted fertility treatments after not being able to get pregnant, would he have just sat there and let her go through that absolute hell, and drain their savings in the process?
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    Font - Fantastic_Poet4800 5 days ago I'm older than a lot of you and I've seen a LOT of men pull some variation on this to get what they want out of a marriage while stringing their wife along with the promise of children they have no intention of having. OP- just leave, this is not something you can come back from. If you want children have them.
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    Font - 500CatsTypingStuff 5 days ago And did OP have to suffer the side effects of taking hormonal birth control for years unnecessarily? Just another example of his betrayal in lying about it.
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    Font - LordHamsterbacke 5 days ago That reminds me of a German temptation island season: The one guy got a vasectomy, didn't tell his girlfriend because "if she somehow ends up pregnant, i know she cheated on me". But HE had a alarm for HER birth control pills and kept reminding her to take her pills... If that is the case OP: i would suggest run. (I know it sounds extreme but... I don't know if I could trust him anymore)
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    Font - bibliophile145 days ago And if they had been actively "trying" then the heartbreak OP would have faced with every negative test would have been rough.
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    Font - redgumdrop 5 days ago God those negative tests are worst thing ever when you want a child, men don't get how heartbreaking that little line feels. I wonder when was he planing to tell her if ever or just play stupid while she thinks there's something wrong with her.. This would be divorce for me..
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    Font - noddyneddy 5 days ago What about if the woman has already made career choices based on having children and building flexibility into her life? Perhaps compromising her financial worth as a result? The impact of his lie may touch so many other aspects of her life
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    Font - Johoski 5 days ago ● "All paths lead to divorce." AMEN.
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    Font - PixelPioneer_ OP 5 days ago · edited 5 days ago 2 I told him that I'm going to file for a divorce a few hours ago. You all have really opened my eyes, I feel like I'm finally seeing things the way they are. I was blinded for 8 years and got all those years stolen from me in a way. Thank you for all the overwhelming responses. I've been reading each one of them!!
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    Rectangle - I just found out that my husband of 8 years has been secretly sterilized I've a 'It's not even the sterilization that's the issue, it's the 8 year lie!' for in been some the f taker he matter. He says he did it for personal reasons and that it doesn't change how he feels about
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